Archives for October 2011

Hot Topic Tuesday – Family Sleeping Arrangements

Hot Topic TuesdaysWhen you ask an expectant mother where her baby will sleep, she has a definite answer.  Granted, sometimes the answer changes once the mother goes from being an expectant mother to being a mother, but still, when it comes to where the baby will sleep, that’s something that everyone has an opinion on.  The usual three plans are bed sharing or co-sleeping (having the baby right in bed with you), rooming in (having the baby in a crib, cradle, or something else in parents’ room), or having baby sleep in his own nursery from the very beginning.

Everyone will have a reason for why they do what they do, and it will be a very valid reason… for that family. [Read more…]

Mommy Time Interrupted

As a stay at home mom, I don’t really get a whole lot of mommy time to myself.  I don’t have the drive home on the way from work to decompress or whatever.  It’s all Norton and puppies all the time.  I don’t generally mind, though.  I usually manage to slip in mommy time when it’s needed thanks to the assistance of the husband.  He’s a great dad who is very involved, so I don’t have to “ask him to baby-sit” or any other such nonsense.

But I thought today would be my chance for a little relaxation.  I have a stack of books from Amazon that I’m trying to get through.  And I really, really wanted to just take a bubble bath.  Norton was finally taking a nap, so I figured I’d take advantage of it.  I took the dogs out for a quick potty break, ran my bathwater, and grabbed Natural Childbirth: The Bradley Way, and got my towel, bottled water, and other comforts ready.  And then I settled into my wonderfully hot and bubbly bath water.  Mommy time was underway. [Read more…]

Toddler Communication – A Battle of Wills?

I’ve been trying a lot of things that the speech pathologist suggested when we went to intervention last week.  I know that Norton’s toddler talking is not quite up to speed and that he’s not using as many words as he should.  We’re all fairly certain that there’s no developmental reason for our toddler communication difficulties, so we’ve got a plan of attack to try to get things going.  Let me tell you, I’m starting to think that our toddler communication issues have nothing whatsoever to do with Norton’s abilities to actually improve his toddler talking.

I’m starting to think that this is a battle of wills.  I think this goes beyond toddler independence.  I think this is a stubborn toddler in action. [Read more…]

A Happy Mom Does Three for Thursday

My friend Evelyn started Three for Thursday months ago, but it’s something that I don’t do a whole lot of the time.  But this time?  I’m a happy mom with the time to do it.  Of course, I’m a happy mom with time to spare because Norton is watching Sesame Street.  But it’s not using the television as a baby-sitter if I’m in the room, right?

1. Three things that have kept me from blogging lately. [Read more…]

Fun with Fall Colors – Wordless Wednesday

I had a pumpkin from our trip to the pumpkin patch.  I have a cute kid.  And I live in one of the most beautiful places in the world.  Isn’t that all that I need for Wordless Wednesday?

Checking Out Hypnobirthing as a Natural Childbirth Method

So, yeah.  I really do want to attempt a VBAC delivery.  Fortunately, my doctor is supportive of that and even encourages a VBAC delivery over a repeat cesarean whenever possible.  But here’s the thing: I have zero experience with using a natural childbirth method… or with having a natural childbirth.  We’re looking at two choices for a natural childbirth method: Hypnobirthing (or the Mangan Method) or the Bradley Method.  (We’re also seriously leaning towards hiring a doula, which means I need to get my butt in gear and start searching.)

Checking Out Hypnobirthing as a Natural Childbirth Method (Cloth Diaper Addicts)Either way, we doubt we’ll take a class.  We essentially have the Hypnobabies class in a box, and we’ve purchased all the materials that we can find (including the Bradley Method course workbook since there is no Bradley Method class in our entire province).  So far I’ve been taking a gander at hypnobirthing.  We bought HypnoBirthing: The Mongan Method: A natural approach to a safe, easier, more comfortable birthing online and I started reading.

I’m not terribly far through the Hypnobirthing book, as I find it terribly… hippie in some of the verbiage.  I’ve had a vaginal birth before.  I know that it can be pretty effing excruciating.  I also know that it can be painless, even without any sort of natural childbirth method training.  Especially if you’re a woman in my family.  (My mother had one of my sisters in such a painless labor that she felt no contractions and had to be told when to push.  My oldest sister had the same type of labor, and it was a fast labor to boot.  It looked like I was on the way to the same type of labor with my firstborn… but some impatient soul decided that I should have pitocin to speed it up.  Grr.)  But whenever someone goes on about how “women were made for this” and so forth, it’s kind of a big eye roll for me.

The book also has a CD in the back with a couple of tracks designed to put you in a state of hypnosis.  I’ve been listening to them when I have an excruciating headache and can take a nap… and I’ll tell you what: it’s definitely relaxing.  I’ve always fallen asleep before both tracks were over with, and when I wake up I have less of a headache.  It’s got me starting to think that maybe there is something to this HypnoBirthing thing, after all.

What’s appealing to me right now is a sort of blending of the two methods.  If I can have a painless child birth through hypnosis, great.  I’m all for anything that makes the process easy.  But if not, the pain management techniques that are a part of the Bradley Method seem like they could help.

Did you use a natural childbirth method?  Which did you go with?  Were you able to go natural?

Why I Use a Toddler Leash – Hot Topic Tuesday

A whole lot of people criticize the toddler leash.  It’s okay; I totally understand why they aren’t fans of it.  A favorite reason for criticizing the toddler leash is that children are not dogs.  The husband bought our son a toddler leash when he was smaller, but we haven’t really used it much.

Now, though, I use that toddler leash any time we go somewhere that doesn’t have a shopping cart and isn’t particularly stroller friendly.

Hang on.  Before you decide that I must be too lazy to watch my kid or something, allow me to remind you of a little story.  Last month, Norton tried to take off in the library.  I was holding his hand.  He got hurt.  And we ended up spending hours in the hospital getting x-rays since he couldn’t use his arm at all.  That was when I found out about nursemaid’s elbow. [Read more…]

The Origin of Breastfeeding Issues and Attempting to Overcome Them

I have never made a secret of my breastfeeding issues.  My breastfeeding issues aren’t things like poor milk supply or latch problems.  Instead, I have breastfeeding problems of the psychological variety.  (Thanks, Mom.)  I grew up with my mother insisting that breastfeeding was trashy, disgusting, dirty, etc.  I had no positive breastfeeding images to counter that.  For a long time, I was uncomfortable with other people breastfeeding around me…  But before you decide to string me up or cite laws, I’ll also let you know that I never, ever suggested that a breastfeeding mom stop breastfeeding.  I was never so arrogant as to presume that my discomfort trumped someone else’s right to feed her baby.  I figured that there were plenty of other directions to look, so I just did that.  My breastfeeding issues are my problem, not anyone else’s.  I didn’t get over my discomfort with being around breastfeeding until I found a lot of mommy friends (mostly online, but a few in “meat space”) who breastfed.  But that just meant that I was okay with being around my friends who were in the act, not that I was okay with it and found it normalized to the point that I was able to do so.  And it was years after my mother’s death that I got to the point of even being okay around it.  But the mere thought of me being the one to do the breastfeeding brings about unpleasant reactions, ranging from discomfort to nausea. [Read more…]

Toddler Fun and Adventure at the Pumpkin Patch!

Norton exploring the ditch

I’ve been wanting to take Norton to something cool and designed for outdoor toddler fun.  Admittedly, I am not an outdoors person, so most of our toddler fun is of the indoor variety.  Still, though, I do want to give Norton a well rounded, fun, and adventurous childhood full of learning opportunities.  And it’s good for me to step outside of my own comfort zone.  So yesterday we took Norton to the pumpkin patch. [Read more…]

Toddler Talking and Hope on the Horizon

It Takes Two to Talk

So, yeah.  Earlier this week, I worried about Norton’s lack of toddler talking.  I’d gotten some helpful things from It Takes Two to Talk, but it turns out that the book was more helpful than I’d thought.  While I did learn that part of the “problem” is with Norton’s communication style (he is very happy to play by himself and only starts an interaction when he wants something) and how I respond to it, and I got some ideas on how to work past it, I was still getting nervous about the lack of toddler talking.  I’d received more than one message through various mediums that maybe our toddler communication issues were a sign of something more serious… and while I didn’t think so, I did find the possibility to be worrisome. [Read more…]