This is what Being a Stay at Home Mom is About

Before the husband and I even got pregnant, we knew that being a stay at home mom was the best choice for us.  We knew what kind of parenting we wanted and how we wanted our family to go, and being a stay at home mom seemed like the best way for us to get that Norman Rockwell painting that we wanted.

The reality, of course, is that being a stay at home mom isn’t quite what I’d dreamed about.  In my fantasies about being a stay at home mom, I was always supermom, always ready with a healthy snack and a kind word.  Wielding my spatula with fierce accuracy to make absolutely amazing meals that the whole family would love.  My house would always be immaculate and my kid would always be happy.

Ha.  Fantasies and realities seldom match up.

Norton loves cake batter

Today, a friend in an online group mentioned that she’d baked a cake.  I’d been wanting to bake a cake for a few days now, but I hadn’t gotten around to it.  My Mix Master isn’t used very much, so it was a bit out of reach.  (Read: my short self can’t get it down without help.)  But I kept thinking that it would be cool to have Norton help me make a cake.  I mean, that’s the kind of thing that we’d do in my fantasies about being a stay at home mom.

So I got brave.

I pulled a dining room chair over to the kitchen counter and put Norton on it.  Then I poured the cake mix powder in a large mixing bowl.  That’s when the fun began: Norton put his little hand in, grabbed a fistful of powder, and tried to eat it.  I moved the bowl away while I grabbed eggs and heard him pull the bowl back to himself.  Lather, rinse, and repeat while I gathered the rest of the ingredients.  I tried to get him to help me with things like adding the water and the oil, but he wouldn’t have any of it.  He also didn’t like the sound of the hand mixer, so I had to put him down for that.  Of course, he still stayed in the kitchen with me and screamed at the noise.

But once I was done with the mixer, that’s when the fun started: I let him lick a beater.

And it was bliss.  I didn’t think it was possible, but he managed to shove the whole end of the beater in his mouth.

Messy face!

This stuff isn’t anything huge or profound, nor was it terribly messy.  But this is definitely what being a stay at home mom is all about.

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.


  1. I love this cute little story. You will have many fun baking memories to come!

  2. Some of my favorite memories of the years my mom stayed home with me are in the kitchen. We still laugh about a time she dropped the powdered sugar bag into the mixer while she was making frosting and it exploded all over the kitchen. I love that you got pictures of your cake making party! It totally is the stuff we dream of and it’s nice to make it happen…even if it’s only every once in a while! 🙂

  3. Thank you for sharing this sweet story and the perfect pictures as well. The truth is that life is about the moments. When you value the moments, the stay-at-home decision makes perfect sense. 😀

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