Being a Good Mom Doesn’t Mean “More Stuff”

Every now and again, I read something about “simplicity parenting.”  When I read it, it seems like such a remarkably wonderful parenting style that I’d love to accomplish.  Abandoning the idea of having the latest and greatest toddler toys for Norton just seems like an absolutely amazing idea.  Divorcing the concept of “more stuff” = “being a good mom” as we start gearing up for the holidays seems amazing and foreign.

Still, though, as much as I can pile on the toys and things for Norton, there’s one thing that I absolutely cannot buy.  And, really, it’s the one thing that I should be focusing on.  I cannot buy him my time and attention.  Really, Norton seems to get the most enjoyment out of us doing stuff together that doesn’t cost a dime.  It costs nothing for us to dance to music.  It costs nothing to sing our own version of Elmo’s World.  (Replace “Elmo” with kid’s name; replace “goldfish” and “crayon” with kid’s favorite things.  We use “loves his mommy… and Pillow, too.”)  When he leads me into singing Elmo’s World, I know that I’m being a good mom by how happy he is.

With Eudora, her needs are simpler since she’s smaller.  Sitting down and playing with her on the floor or cheering her on when she crawls to me are the things that excite her the most.  The smile that lights up her entire tiny face when I correctly interpret what she wants does it, too.

As I get caught up in the “must buy ALL THE TOYS” rush of the holiday season, I really do need to just remember that my kids don’t think that stuff makes me a good mom.  It’s doing things with them that does the trick.

What do you think is part of being a good mom?

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.


  1. I think just being there for your kids, when they need you, is what makes you a good mom. Caring for them, nurturing them, teaching them…all that good stuff. Toys and gifts don’t last long but family does. 🙂

  2. That sounds wonderful.
    One thing I do for my children…every night about 20 minutes before bed..I go into my room and call for my kids…I make them hang out with me and we talk about things..I will ask them ..what is the best thing that happened to you today and what is the worst. We go around in a circle asking tons of questions. It is great!

  3. Thank you for sharing your post. My kids are older, but when my children were small, I would read them a story till they fell asleep. What your doing id great.

  4. Thank you for sharing your post. My kids are older, but when my children were small, I would read them a story till they fell asleep. What your doing is great.

  5. So true! All they really need is your love and support. And time with little ones is so precious!

  6. Raquel Molczan says:

    i certainly agree! quality over quainty. being a mom is a juggling act (i’m learning more and more each), but the bottom line is that you’re present with your children. that’s what they will always keep in their heart, and cherish.

Speak Your Mind


CommentLuv badge