Hiring a Doula – A Smart Move

Hiring a Doula - A Smart Choice (Motherhood Looms)There were a lot of things about my pregnancy with Eudora that didn’t go as planned. Not much went according to my birth plan, either. Oh, and our coming home from the hospital was a disaster. Out of all of those fiascos, though, there’s one thing that was a good move – hiring a doula.  You’d think that since I had a repeat c-section, I would have considered hiring a doula to be a waste.  You’d think wrong.  You see, from the beginning, hiring a doula was more about my husband than me.

In the beginning, I was down with having a repeat c-section.  My first childbirth, which was vaginal, was just horrible.  I had back labor, and it was severe enough that I nearly lost consciousness.  I was on the verge of blacking out when I got my epidural.  However, my husband really did want the experience of seeing his child born, so I got on board with a VBAC and started using Hypnobabies to prepare.

I ended up with a c-section because Eudora wouldn’t descend and she was tachycardic.

With all of that in mind, how was hiring a doula helpful?  Well, while I was still attempting to labor, she was great about helping me focus.  She was company.  She helped with keeping the monitors on since Eudora was flailing around in there so that they would lose her on the monitors.  She was focused on keeping me comfortable.  But the most helpful part of hiring a doula came along after the doctors decided that it would be a good idea for us to do a repeat cesarean.

I was okay with having a c-section.  For me, it was fine because I knew that there would be a definite end to the cramping.  It was relaxing to know that there was an end in sight.  My husband started to fall apart.  The last time, I’d had a c-section because I just plain wouldn’t go into labor.  It was scheduled after two failed inductions.  This time, though, it was a c-section because one of us was in trouble.  He was on the verge of a panic attack.  The idea of losing one or both of us was something that he couldn’t shake.

At that point, hiring a doula was about him.  She took him out of the room for a walk and a coffee.  She stayed with him while I was being prepped.  She stayed with him and our daughter while I was in recovery (and puking my brains out).  She then stayed with us for a bit while I tried to breastfeed (and puked more).

Even though our birth plan was a complete bomb, hiring a doula helped both my husband and me.  I’d totally recommend hiring a doula to anyone who is on the fence.

Did you hire a doula?  How did it work for you?

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.

Comments

  1. I wish I had hired a doula. I don’t think I’ll be having another one, but if I did, I would definitely do it the next time!

  2. I didn’t have a doula with either of my kids. It just wasn’t for me, but I can see the benefit, and I’m glad you had her there for you!

  3. I’ve heard wonderful things about doulas! I’ve never been preggo… but would totally consider hiring a doula if we finally get a positive pregnancy test!

  4. I’ve never had one with my first two children and I actually haven’t heard a lot about hiring a doula so I appreciate learning more. Thanks for sharing the info.

  5. I didn’t have one with any of my three children. I was very blessed to have a very supportive OB with the first and a fabulous midwife with the latter two.

  6. Rachel A. says:

    Yes!! Doulas are amazing!! They are always there to help you and can give your husband a break. Plus they can help you ask the right questions in those crucial moments of birth. Our doula was amazing and worth every penny!

  7. Leela R. says:

    I hired a doula but I had a precipitous birth so she never made it to the hospital in time for the birth of our son. Heck, baby’s daddy almost missed it because he was parking the car! If I had been in labor for more than a couple of hours though I’m sure it would have been worth the $$ we spent.

  8. phattiecake says:

    A doula was one of the best decisions we ever made. I took my Birthing from Within class with her and it was fantastic. My birth plan was to water birth naturally at a birth center. After laboring for 3 days, I ended up transferring to a hospital. My husband and I were both exhausted. I hadn’t slept, used the restroom, or kept any food down for days, by the time my son was born, my water had been broken for over 37 hours. My doula was with us every step of the way, and our midwives from the birth center were too. Of it weren’t for them, I don’t know how we would have dealt with it all. A huge help was post-partial, when I was grieving the loss of my birth plan. My son was born healthy, but it was still hard having had things gone so difficult. I highly recommend using a doula.

  9. Dionne Hernandez says:

    I hope with my next birth I can have a doula and a home birth. My first birth experience was okay but my baby came so fast I had her in the parking lot and when I finally got to the hospital all they kept saying was how next time I would have to be induced. I was right on “schedule” with my due date and had no pregnancy issues and my baby slid right out when she was born so I don’t see a need for an induction next time around. I would just like to stay home and away from the hospital.

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