Preschool Whine – Want Some Cheese with that?

We seem to have entered a new phase in child development.  It is, in all honesty, a phase that I could have done without.  We have found the Preschool Whine.  I have to say, it’s probably one of the more irritating stages of child development.  It’s also one that has me at my wit’s end.

Preschool Whine - Want Some Cheese with that? (Motherhood Looms)

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Some days are, of course, worse than others.  Yesterday was such an awful preschool whine day that I spent a lot of time sending Norton to his room for throwing a tantrum when I refused to give into his demands.  Not until he uses a big boy voice.  It was just maddening.  It seemed like no sooner than I’d let him out of his room than I’d be sending him back for the same preschool whine.

I have no idea where this sudden need to whine came from.  I get whining.  I do.  But when he goes straight for the preschool whine voice when he wants to watch Fefee Feet (or Sesame Street) or wants a slice of bread for a snack, it just gets right on my nerves.  When it’s the entire blasted day, it’s even worse.

I got annoyed and offered him some cheese with his preschool whine.  He took the string cheese… and then fed it to the dog.  After the dog ate his cheese, he promptly kicked it… and was sent back to his room.  The whining continued right up until his daddy came home at 6 pm.  I’m starting to wonder if maybe sending him to his room is no longer a good time out since it has zero impact on the behavior, but at least it gets him out of my hair when he starts ticking me off.

I don’t particularly enjoy sending him to his room.  I’d much rather have wonderful happy times of bonding over books instead of someone raging because I won’t give him more fruit bites or turn on Sesame Street so he can leave the room (or throw a tantrum) when Elmo isn’t on the screen.

I also know that I was late at nipping the preschool whine in the bud.  In the beginning, I’d give him what he wanted when he whined because at least he was using words.  After the hurdle of overcoming a toddler language delay, I had no desire to do anything that would impede his use of language.  Now I’m wondering if that only made the issue worse.

Have you had to put up with a whining child?  How did you get the preschool whine out of your stock?

 

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.

Comments

  1. We are still fighting the preschool whine. It’s been… 2 years? And it’s only within the past 6 months that there’s been any improvements. But, they’re improvements. Now when you catch him in a no-reason-first-time-asking whine, and tell him to repeat himself using his nice words, he will do it. We haven’t won yet, but at least it is no longer resulting in temper tantrums.

  2. We are still fighting the preschool whine. It’s been… 2 years? And it’s only within the past 6 months that there’s been any improvements. But, they’re improvements. Now when you catch him in a no-reason-first-time-asking whine, and tell him to repeat himself using his nice words, he will do it. We haven’t won yet, but at least it is no longer resulting in temper tantrums.

  3. We’re homeschoolers and we adopted our kids at an older age. The only whining in my house comes from me – lol

  4. We’re homeschoolers and we adopted our kids at an older age. The only whining in my house comes from me – lol

  5. Whining drives me CRAZY!!! Every child does it and parents are the ones who either reinforce it or stop it. I work in a child care center and when children use that tone I kneel down at their eye level so that they know I am listening/ giving my full attention and I say “Oh no! I can not hear your words when your voice is whining. Could you please say it again so that I can understand?” Sometimes I have to repeat this a few times until they get it. Other children will stomp off, yell, throw a fit, because they want to whine…but when the kids realize that they can not get their needs met or communicate with the adults, they will change their voices to be heard 🙂

  6. Whining drives me CRAZY!!! Every child does it and parents are the ones who either reinforce it or stop it. I work in a child care center and when children use that tone I kneel down at their eye level so that they know I am listening/ giving my full attention and I say “Oh no! I can not hear your words when your voice is whining. Could you please say it again so that I can understand?” Sometimes I have to repeat this a few times until they get it. Other children will stomp off, yell, throw a fit, because they want to whine…but when the kids realize that they can not get their needs met or communicate with the adults, they will change their voices to be heard 🙂

  7. My daughter who is our oldest whines the most. My son prefers tantrums when he doesn’t get his way. Sending them to their rooms doesn’t work because they’ll just play in there. We take stuff away, like no computer time, take their favorite toys, no television, stuff like that.

  8. My daughter who is our oldest whines the most. My son prefers tantrums when he doesn’t get his way. Sending them to their rooms doesn’t work because they’ll just play in there. We take stuff away, like no computer time, take their favorite toys, no television, stuff like that.

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