Anti-Smoking Teen Makes Me Proud

Anti-Smoking Teen Makes Me Proud (Motherhood Looms)

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I had a conversation about tobacco with my teenaged son not that long ago.  I was pleased to find that he is militantly anti-smoking.  When he credited me with his anti-smoking attitude, I was beyond thrilled.

Statistically, smoking parents are more likely to have smoking children.  I read a UK study that indicated that children of smokers are three times more likely to become smokers themselves.  That’s a pretty significant number.  I smoked when Andy was younger.  At times in my life, I smoked quite heavily.

So how did I, his dirty smoker mother, influence my boy to become militantly anti-smoking?

I treated it like something shameful.  I never smoked where he could see it.  There was no smoking in my car or in my house.  If he’d follow me outside when I was smoking, I’d “hide” my cigarette from view and then send him back inside.  It wasn’t “cute” to see a child imitating a smoking parent.  (Fortunately, Andy never did that, but I did have quite the freak out when I saw his little cousin imitating his dad and grandfather smoking on the back deck.)  The last thing that I ever wanted was for my boy to see me smoking and think that it was okay.  It wasn’t.*

When I did finally quit, he was my biggest cheerleader.  And now he’s encouraging his school aged friends to either quit smoking or never start in the first place.

Did you raise an anti-smoking teen?  How did you do it?

*Disclaimer: No judgment on those who still smoke.  It’s hard to quit.  I get that.  That doesn’t mean that I want kids to start, though, and sending them the message that smoking is not okay is a great way to do that.

 

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.

Comments

  1. Your son sounds like a great teen with a solid head on his shoulders!

  2. Your son sounds like a great teen with a solid head on his shoulders!

  3. I didn’t smoke but it was only because my grandparents didn’t smell good when they smoked.

  4. I didn’t smoke but it was only because my grandparents didn’t smell good when they smoked.

  5. I don’t smoke, I did a few times in college just for the heck of it but I hated the smell in my clothes and hair. I did have a co-worker once who hid her smoking from her son. You could never tell she smoke at all unless you saw her going out with her smokes. I would always tell her if you have to hide it so much maybe you shouldn’t do it at all.

  6. I don’t smoke, I did a few times in college just for the heck of it but I hated the smell in my clothes and hair. I did have a co-worker once who hid her smoking from her son. You could never tell she smoke at all unless you saw her going out with her smokes. I would always tell her if you have to hide it so much maybe you shouldn’t do it at all.

  7. I dabbled in smoking in high school when it was “cool.” What is it about lung cancer and emphysema that’s cool exactly?

  8. I dabbled in smoking in high school when it was “cool.” What is it about lung cancer and emphysema that’s cool exactly?

  9. That is WONDERFUL! I hope my girls are the same way, although I think they will be because we just aren’t around it. NO one in our circle of family or friends smokes so they’re not exposed… yet. But we’ll definitely be having talks!

  10. That is WONDERFUL! I hope my girls are the same way, although I think they will be because we just aren’t around it. NO one in our circle of family or friends smokes so they’re not exposed… yet. But we’ll definitely be having talks!

  11. Smoking is a rough spot in our marriage. My husband smokes, I do not. In fact, it gives me migraines and stomach aches. I can only imagine what it does to our kids. And that’s only with 2nd & 3rd hand smoke. I know he has tried to quit, and I’m sure it’s hard. I’ve tried to be supportive, but this is something he has to do on his own he tells me. It’s frustrating. But he never smokes when the kids are watching, or around them for that matter. And for that, I am grateful. I hope, and pray, they grow up without knowing the taste of a cigarette in their mouth. I love my husband very much, I just wish he would give me the tools to help him succeed in quitting!

  12. Smoking is a rough spot in our marriage. My husband smokes, I do not. In fact, it gives me migraines and stomach aches. I can only imagine what it does to our kids. And that’s only with 2nd & 3rd hand smoke. I know he has tried to quit, and I’m sure it’s hard. I’ve tried to be supportive, but this is something he has to do on his own he tells me. It’s frustrating. But he never smokes when the kids are watching, or around them for that matter. And for that, I am grateful. I hope, and pray, they grow up without knowing the taste of a cigarette in their mouth. I love my husband very much, I just wish he would give me the tools to help him succeed in quitting!

  13. Congrats to your son for making a great life choice and kudos to you for helping him do so!

  14. Congrats to your son for making a great life choice and kudos to you for helping him do so!

  15. My 12 year old daughter is very against smoking. I started back about 6 months ago due to stress, and I know she’d be my biggest cheerleader should I stop again!

  16. My 12 year old daughter is very against smoking. I started back about 6 months ago due to stress, and I know she’d be my biggest cheerleader should I stop again!

  17. First of all, congratulations on quitting smoking! That is a HUGE accomplishment. I used to work for ACS with a leadership program centered around anti-tobacco advocacy. I was so impressed by the articulate, passionate youth involved. Many of them had parents or loved ones who smoked and that proved a huge motivator for them.

  18. First of all, congratulations on quitting smoking! That is a HUGE accomplishment. I used to work for ACS with a leadership program centered around anti-tobacco advocacy. I was so impressed by the articulate, passionate youth involved. Many of them had parents or loved ones who smoked and that proved a huge motivator for them.

  19. He sounds like a great kid! And you did all the right things to discourage him from smoking himself.

  20. He sounds like a great kid! And you did all the right things to discourage him from smoking himself.

  21. Mama de Gabi y Mari says:

    Spending my entire young life watching my Dad smoke while having bout after bout of lung related illness and wondering whether this was the time it was going to kill him was sufficient reason for me to never even experiment with smoking.

  22. Mama de Gabi y Mari says:

    Spending my entire young life watching my Dad smoke while having bout after bout of lung related illness and wondering whether this was the time it was going to kill him was sufficient reason for me to never even experiment with smoking.

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