One More Reason to Ignore Adult Cyber Bullying

I’m beginning to realize why I love Twitter.  I follow some pretty awesome people who throw out some pretty awesome pearls of wisdom.  And they even do it in 140 characters or less.  Today I found a tweet from Chalene Johnson that gave an excellent reason to ignore adult cyber bullying.  First, though, it’s important to realize that adult cyber bullying very rarely has anything to do with the recipient of the bullying.  It’s very seldom about the recipient at all.

In a perfect world, adults who disagree with each other over an idea would be able to look at each other and say “I disagree with your opinion on this issue, but that does not make you Hitler.  Nor does it impact your value as a human being.”  And then they’d shake hands and move on.  One More Reason to Ignore Adult Cyber Bullying (Cloth Diaper Addicts)And two adults who find themselves so incompatible with each other that they just can’t play well with each other at all?  The most reasonable course of action would be to say, “I don’t like you very much.  I don’t like the way that I react to you, so I’ve decided that I’m going to put you on my ignore list and continue on with my internet activities.”  Then do just that.

Of course, people don’t necessarily do what might be the most reasonable course of action.  And that’s where the adult cyber bullying comes in.  You know, when someone decides that she doesn’t like another person for some reason… and then decides that it’s far more reasonable to start a campaign of terror against this person.  When someone decides that the entire world of Facebook isn’t big enough for both her and the object of her loathing.

I don’t tend to experience too much adult bullying, but that’s only because I experienced bullying as a child and learned to stand up for myself.  I will not tolerate being treated badly because someone doesn’t like me.  After all, it’s not that hard to just ignore someone.

But that’s me.

And (fortunately) not everyone is me.

For those who are experiencing some sort of adult bullying online, here’s an absolutely wonderful quote that just might help you stand firm in not giving into your bully and not rising to her bate.  And here it is, 140 characters or less, courtesy of Chalene Johnson.  She said, “U CANT beat crazy!! U wont win if youre trying 2argue w/an irrational individual. So relax & save your positive NRG.”

She’s right.

It doesn’t matter how rational you remain, or how hard you try to avoid this person.  There’s no point in even acknowledging this person (unless, of course, she moves into the point where you think she may pose a physical danger to you or your loved ones).

You can’t beat the crazy, but if you ignore it long enough, it might find a new target and go away.  Or it might realize that there’s something wrong with how it is behaving and get a life that doesn’t involve trying to make someone else miserable through adult cyber bullying.

Have you ever experienced adult cyber bullying?  How did you handle it?

Originally written June 22, 2011.  Since I wrote this, I have blocked people on various social media outlets for being ridiculously unpleasant… usually for throwing around “the a word.”  It’s made my time online much more pleasant.

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.


  1. I have always just ignored bullying. I am all for civil debate and discussion, but, when personal attacks start happening, I am so out of there. I also find little point in arguing with people who are not open to debate.

  2. Brittany Belling says:

    I ignore bullying. I’ve had some terrible things written in comments on my blog, they’re deleted and that’s the end of that.

  3. When Girlchild was wee, I kept up with my family via YouTube vids of her because we lived away from town. Some jackhole commented that we were ‘abusing’ Girlchild because of how we bathed her on one of the vids. Initially? I was all about tracking him down and burning him at the stake. Then I realized a) he was a douche from youtube and b) seriously? my energy is better wasted on other things, like my kid, laundry, feeding myself, sleeping, killing ants… anything really.

  4. rachelledevera says:

    True! I have oftentimes ignored bullying. I just tell myself I’m a better person than the bully, therefore, I will never ever stoop to his/her level. Cheers! 🙂

  5. I think it is best to ignore those cyberbullies. They’re a waste of time. =)

  6. Ramblings Mom says:

    I agree, best just to ignore them. Sad that grown adults can be so immature as to be bullies.

  7. Allyson Bossie says:

    My husband tells me all the time when I relate things that I either deleted or just ignored, he says the only opinions that matter in my world are mine and his. The rest, just don’t matter, and that is especially true when it comes to the internet. People can be so hurtful, sigh

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