Stress during Pregnancy – I’m Being Unreasonable #throwback

I’m five weeks pregnant and already stressed over it.  I know the cause of my stress during pregnancy.  I know that it’s because I’m completely freaking out over my first prenatal ultrasound being done at the private clinic instead of the hospital.  I know that my hatred of that place actually being so intense that it causes stress during pregnancy is ridiculous.

Going there seems like a bad omen.  That was where I went for an ultrasound with the one that didn’t work out.

I hate their policies.  I hate (the majority of) their staff.  I hate their parking lot and the fee that they charge to park there.  I hate walking into the building.

In short, I hate everything about that place.

Stress during Pregnancy - I'm Being Unreasonable (Cloth Diaper Addicts)The last time that I was there for an ultrasound was when I was there for an ovarian ultrasound to confirm that I still had polycystic ovaries.  The tech treated me like an object and like I was a terrible person for even speaking.  I was supposed to just lie there like a piece of meat on that slab, let them poke and prod, and not ask questions.  And as for seeing it?  Forget it.  They don’t allow for the viewing of anything other than the twenty week anatomy scan.

That part really infuriates me.  It’s my body.  What right do they have to keep what’s going on in my body from me?

The husband, fortunately, is beginning to think that maybe we don’t need to do that particular one.  Our first prenatal ultrasound should be something that we enjoy together, not something that I dread and have to be forced into.

I am an educated woman.  I don’t appreciate being infantilized by an ultrasound tech or the policies of an ultrasound clinic.

I think the simple fact is that there are enough things to cause stress during pregnancy without subjecting myself to this kind of aggravation.  I should walk in for an ultrasound feeling excited and filled with anticipation, not angry before I even get there.

It should be a time to make sure that everything is as it should be.  It should be a time for the husband to see our baby on the screen and have it become real for him.  It shouldn’t be a time to feel bullied by medical staff.

While I realize that good prenatal care is important, I don’t think that this even remotely falls under that category.

I’d rather skip it.

Did you ever have an appointment that you weren’t interested in attending?

Originally written on August 3, 2011.  I went to the ultrasound and it wasn’t as horrid as I expected.  I think that’s because I got a tech who actually had a bedside manner.  As for the pregnancy itself, that pregnancy yielded one perfect little girl named Eudora.

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About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.


  1. Cindy Batchelor says:

    My friend is going through this right now! Will def be sharing this post with her! Thanks so much!

  2. I didn’t enjoy many of my prenatal appointments, especially with my first doctor. The most annoying visit I had was when she asked when my last period was, when I told hear “I don’t know”, she looked like she was going to go postal. “What do you mean ‘you don’t know’, don’t you know your own body?” To be honest, That is not something that I keep track of in my day planner. She wanted to know the EXACT date, so to shut her up, I gave he a random one. She was rude to me ever since.

  3. Oh I love reading throwbacks! =) Pregnancy is really a stressful process. (according to my sister haha) =)

  4. Olivia @ This West Coast Mommy says:

    I was lucky enough to have a wonderful midwife with both my pregnancies. I wish every mama had the same kind of support. I’ve recommended before that women change service providers if they’re not happy. After all, this is supposed to be a joyful and anticipatory time. Dreading your appointments and feeling, as you said, “like a piece of meat” would make it less special for me.

  5. Danialle Birdwell says:

    I’ve never had an early ultrasound. Personally, I would just skip it and wait until you can schedule one at a different location. There’s no need for you to stress over something that should be exciting.

  6. Alicia Owen says:

    I started dreading the doctor visits when I was pregnant with my daughter after the first or second “every 2 weeks” visit. I loved my doctor and the nurses were usually nice too, but I had to wait. for. ever. Every time. I would say it’s a figment of my imagination that the waits became longer the farther along I got in my pregnancy, but they weren’t. I timed them. I think the longest wait I had (besides my unexpected appointment early on) was an hour and a half. Maybe it’s just me, but that seems a little ridiculous! Plus one of the receptionists was super…well, it rhymes with “itchy”. But yah, after that I started thinking, “Is this really necessary? I don’t have any complications. Everything is going fine. What’s the point?” And I dreaded it every week!

  7. Allyson Bossie says:

    I had high risk pregnancies with every one of my five pregnancies. It was the early ultrasounds that allowed the doctors to see the issues and get me the meds I needed to support my pregnancies. I only lost one baby thanks to the meds they gave me and at least 3 months bedrest with each.

    I think that although you dread it you should go. But, I don’t have the typical rosey scenario most have during pregnancy. I have the worrying day to day if this baby will make it to term, and those ultrasounds helped with that! I also loved hearing the baby’s heartbeat!

  8. I had a few ultrasounds throughout my pregnancy with really grumpy techs so I do understand where you are coming from. My best ultrasound was actually done by a practicum student (with the tech in the room). She was very gentle and kind and easy to be around.

  9. I was stressed through my WHOLE pregnancy….
    A: because it was my first and it took awhile for us to conceive
    B: I had a cone done at 17 for precancerous cells so I had t get my cervix checked constantly
    C: I have an IgA deficiency
    D: had TB (took the meds for that years before)
    and E: right at the beginning of my 3rd trimester I got a fistula and had to take a ton of antibiotics and see the dr constantly to make sure I was still draining and all that lovely stuff.

    All in all I hope my second pregnant isn’t as bad….

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