This afternoon, I was sitting on the couch wasting time on Facebook. A mom had some postpartum questions, but she was concerned about TMI… so she wanted to discuss it via PM. I can totally understand the desire to not want to discuss what’s going on under your undies with 2400 women.
However, here’s the thing to remember: there’s no such thing as TMI when discussing postpartum questions on a mommy Facebook group. Every single one of us is either pregnant, trying to be pregnant, or have had children. Those of us who have birthed some babies have had that wonderful, long lasting postpartum bleeding session. There is bound to have been someone who has had whatever your bleeding question might be, from the barely there blessing to the “OMG, there’s a crime scene in my pants!” Some of us have had stitches, either under the undies or across the abs. Some of us have had stitches from tearing, some from episiotomy.
Then, of course, there’s the delivery. I know that I found that I was suddenly a lot less shy about discussing what’s going on with my lady parts with other women on a message board after having been in a room full of people, some of them men I’d never met, with my exceedingly wide rear end exposed as I received an epidural. There’s not a whole lot of dignity in childbirth. Even if you have an all natural, drug free birth, there’s not much dignity in the howling that can happen.
Either way you slice it, someone has experienced things that means that we can answer some of your postpartum questions, even if it’s just “Oh, wow, that doesn’t sound right. Have you called your OB/Gyn or midwife?” It’s reassuring, though, to know that others have gone through what you’re going through and can help you with your postpartum questions through their own experiences.
Have you ever discussed your postpartum questions with a mom group? Was it helpful?
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