Postpartum Questions and TMI

This afternoon, I was sitting on the couch wasting time on Facebook.  A mom had some postpartum questions, but she was concerned about TMI… so she wanted to discuss it via PM.  I can totally understand the desire to not want to discuss what’s going on under your undies with 2400 women.

However, here’s the thing to remember: there’s no such thing as TMI when discussing postpartum questions on a mommy Facebook group.  Every single one of us is either pregnant, trying to be pregnant, or have had children.  Those of us who have birthed some babies have had that wonderful, long lasting postpartum bleeding session.  There is bound to have been someone who has had whatever your bleeding question might be, from the barely there blessing to the “OMG, there’s a crime scene in my pants!”  Some of us have had stitches, either under the undies or across the abs.  Some of us have had stitches from tearing, some from episiotomy.

Postpartum Questions and TMI (Cloth Diaper Addicts)Then, of course, there’s the delivery.  I know that I found that I was suddenly a lot less shy about discussing what’s going on with my lady parts with other women on a message board after having been in a room full of people, some of them men I’d never met, with my exceedingly wide rear end exposed as I received an epidural.  There’s not a whole lot of dignity in childbirth.  Even if you have an all natural, drug free birth, there’s not much dignity in the howling that can happen.

Either way you slice it, someone has experienced things that means that we can answer some of your postpartum questions, even if it’s just “Oh, wow, that doesn’t sound right.  Have you called your OB/Gyn or midwife?”  It’s reassuring, though, to know that others have gone through what you’re going through and can help you with your postpartum questions through their own experiences.

Have you ever discussed your postpartum questions with a mom group?  Was it helpful?

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About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.


  1. Great post! I share a lot of TMI stuff on my blog for this exact same reason. When I was looking for information, what I found was often lacking. The more we share, the better for us all!
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  2. I agree, I am a nurse, so TMI comes natural, but I think we need to share and ask questions, as some people get quite sick because they are afraid to ask if its normal.
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  3. Great post! I am just a bit too shy t discuss stuff like that openly.
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  4. I’m the kind of girl who has no qualms about discussing personal things. I’m open to sharing my experiences as well as asking others for advice. A women’s only group sounds like a great idea for those that are squeamish about asking their doctors. I mean why not ask other women for help? Most, if not all of them have been through or experienced the same or similar things.
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  5. Yeah, after having a baby it seems that nothing is “personal” anymore 😉 Like you, I was splayed out on display with a group of student doctors and nurses (good ol’ teaching hospital and all!)… childbirth may be a natural process, but it’s an icky one! Like Heather said, the more info the better!

  6. In my kid’s playgroup…we discuss everything about birth! I was seriously freaked out the first time and didn’t know what to expect, because the postpartum stuff isn’t discussed too often.

  7. Mostly with friends although LLLI meetings were very helpful. I generally relied on my midwife, though.
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  8. It is nice for you to provide a place where women can safely go and talk about post partum depression. Many people are afraid to ask questions because they are upset about the reaction they will receive.
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  9. Blogs from a Single Mom says:

    I love this post! I wish questions about pregnancy, childbirth, and periods in general were not so taboo. It is nothing to be ashamed of!

  10. Yes, and then some. I have been a member of the same mom group for 14 years. We were pregnant together, had babies together, and have remained together to this day and have discussed not only postpartum stuff but lots of other “TMI” topics over the years. They’ve been an invaluable resource over the years.
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  11. You are so right!!! I just gave birth and everything was coming out!
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  12. There is no such thing as TMI once you’ve become or are in the process of becomING a mom! Great post!

  13. Couldn’t agree more! Postpartum shouldn’t be TMI. It’s the hush hush of it all that helps PPD take over without getting the immediate help that it needs.
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  14. Love this, it is so true!! I had a bunch of friends get pregnant after I did, so I have discussed all the great and gory details of pregnancy and beyond with anyone who wants to know! Lol.
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  15. I absolutely agree! I went from being very modest and even too shy to be comforable with my mom being present at the birth; to the contractions starting and needing my mom there and not caring I was totally exposed and vulnerable. Child birth changes your personal comfort with yourself and ability to discuss those previously “TMI” topics!

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