Baby Fever? Not Even a Little Bit

It’s funny.  I have friends that are talking about how they have baby fever.  I see people online make comments about instant baby fever after seeing cute baby pics.  But me?  I can’t relate.  I don’t have even a little bit of baby fever.

We’re done.

I see people wondering from time to time when you know that you’re really, truly done.  Is it possible to have a permanent sterilization method without baby fever hitting and then regretting it?

I think it is.Baby Fever? Nope!

We knew when we were pregnant with Eudora that she would be our last.  We were done.  Part of it was because of how hard it was to get pregnant in the first place.  Then there was how much I hated being pregnant and how miserable it made me.  But there was also a feeling of completion.  Within weeks of Norton’s birth, there was no doubt in our minds that we were missing someone.  My husband even shared that feeling that there was someone from our family missing.  With Eudora, though, we never had that sense that we weren’t done.  Even during pregnancy, we knew.  She completed our family.

I had my tubes tied during my c-section.  (I figured that I might as well get it done then since they were already going to be in there anyway.)  No regrets.

But how did I know for sure, even later?  I don’t have baby fever.  Maybe I’ve developed enough anti-baby anti-bodies or something, but I can look at a baby picture without feeling that desperate longing that I’d felt when we were trying.  I can hold my friends’ babies and hand them back without even contemplating the idea of another one.  I’m good.  I don’t miss the baby stage, nor do I have some desire to keep my babies little forever.

Okay, sure, I may have felt a fleeting moment of sadness when we converted Eudora’s crib into a toddler bed.  There was some realization that this was the very last time we would ever have a baby sleeping in a crib in our home.  Every now and again when I go through old kids’ clothes for sale or donation, I marvel over how tiny my babies once were.  And I teared up the first time I put Eudora in training pants.

I suspect the tears over training pants was more about how much I love my cloth diapers than how much I hate my baby growing up into a little girl, though.  I do have some gorgeous fluff.

Still, though, I know without a doubt that getting my tubes tied after Eudora was born was a good decision for us.  I have no regrets at all.  You guys can keep your baby fever.  I’m good.

Have you come to the point when you knew that you were “done?”

About Suzi

Suzi is an American ex-pat living in British Columbia. She's a cloth diaper addict, wife, mom of three, and President of the Prince George chapter of Cloth for a Cause.

Comments

  1. Anastasia says:

    I enjoy all of it, the whole thing, but even I’m getting to where I’ve probably only got enough “in me” for one more try. I think part of that reasoning is that asking any guy my age to raise someone else’s kids without them at least having one of “ours”. So I guess I’m open to that. But even I’m getting tired, just tired. Like as in age.

  2. I still get baby fever every now and then but I am officially done. I had my tubes tied during my c-section with my youngest son. I opted to do this because of my deteriorating health. I don’t think I could survive carrying a baby to term while dealing with chronic pain. I got SPD with my youngest and I was miserable for two months.

    • SPD SUCKS! I had it towards the end with Norton and before I even got a positive pregnancy test with Eudora. I hate being pregnant so much.

  3. Your post is making me teary, a clear sign I still get the baby fever.
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  4. I dont think ill ever know when im done. Ive always wanted 3 and my second is due in just over 4 weeks so I should feel content for a little bit, but no. Everytime I see a cute baby I cant help but think I cant wait to start trying again. I love babies too much that I think ill cry when my 3rd arrives because I dont think we’ll be able to cope with more than 3 🙁

  5. My man had 5 when we got together. I have raised them for almost 5 years and added one of our own last year… and I have baby fever so badly right now lol… I want just one more baby of my own before I say I’m done.

  6. Mellisa patterson says:

    We have 2 boys and are all done (thats a fact!) hubby and I decided 2 was just right. Financially we can provide the best for two kids and emotionally all there needs will be met. Plus I think I would loose my mommy mind with more kids. I watch our kids 100% of the time and work (drive a school bus). Plus somewhere along the lines we decided kids should not share bedrooms and need there own personal space as they get older. Anyhow….i still have baby fever in my heart but my head knows better. Lol. It wouldn’t be fair to our children stretch us so thin as parents.

  7. Melissa E says:

    I wonder how I’ll feel once my partner and I reach the agreed upon amount of babies. he’s getting snipped and the thought of him doing that makes me a bit nervous.

  8. Jennifer S says:

    I’ve never really had baby fever in the first place. Even when all my friends and co-workers starting having babies. My thought was always if it happens, it happens. My baby is now 9 months, and I am not counting having a second out yet, but do not have the need to have one just yet 🙂

  9. Such a great post! I hope I get to the stage where I KNOW for sure that I’m done. I LOVE having babies. Totally HATE pregnancy though, it sucks! My 3rd who is currently 5 mo had a very traumatic start to life. She has a health condition and I’m paranoid that I will have another baby with health problems. It was sooooo hard to have her taken away and spend her first 8 days in the NICU. I just don’t know how I could ever do anything like that again. And now all the specialist appointments at the Children’s Hospital 3 hours away just add a whole different level to a normally busy “mom-life”. Plus most days I’m so exhausted with 3 ages 3 and under, that I have no idea how I could possibly add to the chaos. But I still have that nagging feeling that someday I will come out of the haze and want another.

  10. I’m so indecisive that I can’t imagine knowing for sure!

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