Life with Norton has, in some ways, gotten harder. He’s more defiant than ever. He still uses “I peed in my room!” as an excuse not to go to bed or wherever else. But things were out of control. There was a lot of yelling, temper tantrums, throwing things, tears, and hitting. Counting to three had ceased to help. Threats of spankings were the only thing that made any impact… and even that was beginning to fade. I knew I needed to figure out overcoming obstacles like these in a really big way. Our little family was in trouble. [Read more…]
My Facebook feed has been blowing up this morning. The mommy groups, the cloth diapering groups, and my friends list are all talking about the same thing: a mother decided to change the baby at the table in a restaurant. She and her family were booted.
Okay, in all fairness, she didn’t pop her newborn baby on the table and change the diaper right in plain view. She made the decision to put down the change pad and change the baby on the chair at her table. Regardless of how one wants to justify the decision, the baby was changed in the dining area.
So, moving on… I’ll be direct on my feelings on this.
Last week, my friend Amanda posted about letting her toddler son play with her iPhone. I laughed about this with my husband and said that I could see buying an iPod Touch for baby, but not a phone. The husband agreed that an 8 gig iPod Touch for baby would be a reasonable Christmas present. Plus, because of the internet access feature, we could get him unlimited Barney on YouTube.
Then the husband upped the ante a bit. He suggested a baby iPad. After all, an iPad is basically a big Touch. Norton could really see Barney on an infant iPad. [Read more…]
I was hanging out on Facebook last night (because I live there when I’m online) and came across an interesting question. Why do people take breastfeeding pics and put them on Facebook?
Before anyone starts thinking that she’s anti-boob or what have you, she is breastfeeding her child. However, the idea of having breastfeeding pics taken and splashed on the web was outside of her comfort zone. And before anyone thinks that they need to come after her with a pitchfork or a boobie beanie… it was a very respectful conversation.
Before I begin my little diatribe on celebrity parenting advice, I should start out with a few things. 1.) I am extremely pro-vaccination. 2.) My kids slept in cribs. 3.) I love my stroller. With that in mind…
Celebrity Parenting Advice – Do They Publish Anyone Now?
I have to wonder just how easy it is for these books by famous people to get published. Jenny McCarthy has books published on pregnancy, the first year, and autism. Marilu Henner wrote I Refuse to Raise a Brat. Now Alicia Silverstone has her own very special and spiffy new book, The Kind Mama.
There’s only one celebrity parenting advice book that I’m not going to hammer on, and that’s by Dr. Mayim Bialik. No, I don’t agree with the majority of her conclusions, as I do not parent according to the philosophies of Dr. Sears, and I most definitely disagree with her commentary on vaccination… but at least she has a Ph.D. She’s educated. But she acknowledges that her lifestyle choices with attachment parenting are different than other non AP parents.
Why Do We Read Celebrity Parenting Advice, Anyway?
I’m not sure what the draw to reading celebrity parenting advice books may be. Could it be that it’s some sort of voyeurism, sort of like the popularity of tabloid journalism? Is it because we are a society who is fascinated by what is strange and unusual to us? (After all, what else explains shows like Jon & Kate Plus Eight or Here Comes Honey Boo Boo?)
Or is it because some of us do have “non-mainstream” parenting practices already and love the sense of validation that we get from famous people who do the same way we do? (After all, they are famous and have money, so they must be doing something right. Right?)
Maybe it’s a combination of all of these things. Either way, though, I certainly don’t feel that the vast majority of these celebrity parenting advice books are written by people who are qualified to tell us how to raise our children. Yes, they can tell us how they raise their children… which, really, isn’t that what every blogger who writes about her kids does, anyway? Isn’t that what we do every time someone asks a question on Facebook about toilet training or why Aiden won’t stop hitting Emma at the play ground?
There’s a fine line, though, between telling someone how you do it and telling someone that it’s how they should do it.
Is Celebrity Parenting Advice Mostly Harmless?
Some of it is, of course. Dr. Bialik suggesting baby led weaning isn’t going to put your child in harm’s way. It certainly can be a far more entertaining method of feeding your child than purees on a spoon. It can be absolutely infuriating when a bit of celebrity parenting advice includes things like “cribs are abuse” because that isn’t just saying “I parent differently than you.” That’s saying “You’re doing it wrong because you aren’t doing it like me.”
The real danger, though, in celebrity parenting advice is when they suggest things that are harmful. Jenny McCarthy is the one that I hate on the most for this with her insistence that vaccines are what cause autism. There are all kinds of people out there who don’t vax. I don’t agree with them. Fine. But I absolutely think it’s dangerous when celebrities use pseudoscience or no science to back their ideas.
It’s dangerous for moms struggling with postpartum depression to listen to Alicia Silverstone’s ideas that a vegan diet without sugars will take care of postpartum depression. This is a real issue that shouldn’t be dismissed with “put down the chocolate and think happy thoughts.” Moms need help, not unicorn farts and rainbows.
Really, I just wish that they’d stop with the celebrity parenting advice. Even what isn’t dangerous is often irrelevant. (Yes, Gwyneth Paltrow, I’m referring to your only allowing your children to watch foreign language television on those occasions that they are allowed to watch at all.)
What do you think of celebrity parenting advice?
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There are mornings that start out smoothly, only to culminate in a day that was a complete cluster. Sometimes, though, things can go differently. A day that can seem like a total write-off has one bright moment that tips the scales on a no good, rotten day to at least okay. We had one of those days.
I woke up that morning with Norton coming down the stairs into my bed. He woke us up by being angry and screaming at us for something. Ugh. Not a good start. The day only progressed from there. [Read more…]
You’d think that after the brouhaha on Facebook about breastfeeding photos on Facebook last year (and Facebook developing an official policy regarding those breastfeeding photos), people would be over it. After all, it’s Facebook. Facebook, the land of young people publicly sharing the stupid things that they do and employers using said stupid things as a reason to fire or not hire someone. You’d think that since photos worthy of Girls Gone Stupid or whatever the drunksploitation videos are called show up on a regular basis, no one would bat an eyelash at breastfeeding photos. [Read more…]
Some parents, particularly the attachment parent, are really into bedsharing. I’m not going to write a treatise on whether or not bedsharing is unsafe or not. It comes down to this: there are parents who agree with the American Academy of Pediatrics’ recommendation to avoid co-sleeping with baby in your bed due to increased SIDS risk, and there are those who support the practice as promoting bonding and actually reducing SIDS risk. It’s up to you as the parent to decide where your baby will sleep. [Read more…]
There are times in life that people have an instinctive reaction called “fight or flight.” If you’re reading a psych book, it’ll go into further detail and explain that it’s also known as acute stress response. It kicks in when we experience extreme stress, whether it’s physical or emotional. Newsflash: that instinctive reaction is just that – instinct. It does not pay any mind to who is causing that acute stress response. Our instincts are what have been bred into us. It’s what kept our ancestors alive in the times before indoor plumbing.
A friend of mine is militantly anti-spanking. (I’m of the “it’s a big, dangerous tool that should only be used for a very big job” kind of thing… like if he’s a danger to himself or others.) Recently, her child hurt her… to the point that it left a mark. She had an instinctive reaction to fend off the attacker… even though that attacker was her own child. She slapped her child without even thinking about it. [Read more…]