Hiring a Doula – A Smart Move

Hiring a Doula - A Smart Choice (Motherhood Looms)There were a lot of things about my pregnancy with Eudora that didn’t go as planned. Not much went according to my birth plan, either. Oh, and our coming home from the hospital was a disaster. Out of all of those fiascos, though, there’s one thing that was a good move – hiring a doula.  You’d think that since I had a repeat c-section, I would have considered hiring a doula to be a waste.  You’d think wrong.  You see, from the beginning, hiring a doula was more about my husband than me.

In the beginning, I was down with having a repeat c-section.  My first childbirth, which was vaginal, was just horrible.  I had back labor, and it was severe enough that I nearly lost consciousness.  I was on the verge of blacking out when I got my epidural.  However, my husband really did want the experience of seeing his child born, so I got on board with a VBAC and started using Hypnobabies to prepare.

I ended up with a c-section because Eudora wouldn’t descend and she was tachycardic.

With all of that in mind, how was hiring a doula helpful?  Well, while I was still attempting to labor, she was great about helping me focus.  She was company.  She helped with keeping the monitors on since Eudora was flailing around in there so that they would lose her on the monitors.  She was focused on keeping me comfortable.  But the most helpful part of hiring a doula came along after the doctors decided that it would be a good idea for us to do a repeat cesarean.

I was okay with having a c-section.  For me, it was fine because I knew that there would be a definite end to the cramping.  It was relaxing to know that there was an end in sight.  My husband started to fall apart.  The last time, I’d had a c-section because I just plain wouldn’t go into labor.  It was scheduled after two failed inductions.  This time, though, it was a c-section because one of us was in trouble.  He was on the verge of a panic attack.  The idea of losing one or both of us was something that he couldn’t shake.

At that point, hiring a doula was about him.  She took him out of the room for a walk and a coffee.  She stayed with him while I was being prepped.  She stayed with him and our daughter while I was in recovery (and puking my brains out).  She then stayed with us for a bit while I tried to breastfeed (and puked more).

Even though our birth plan was a complete bomb, hiring a doula helped both my husband and me.  I’d totally recommend hiring a doula to anyone who is on the fence.

Did you hire a doula?  How did it work for you?