Instinctive Reaction to Physical Pain – Parents Have This, Too!

There are times in life that people have an instinctive reaction called “fight or flight.”  If you’re reading a psych book, it’ll go into further detail and explain that it’s also known as acute stress response.  It kicks in when we experience extreme stress, whether it’s physical or emotional.  Newsflash: that instinctive reaction is just that – instinct.  It does not pay any mind to who is causing that acute stress response.  Our instincts are what have been bred into us.  It’s what kept our ancestors alive in the times before indoor plumbing.

A friend of mine is militantly anti-spanking.  (I’m of the “it’s a big, dangerous tool that should only be used for a very big job” kind of thing… like if he’s a danger to himself or others.)  Recently, her child hurt her… to the point that it left a mark.  She had an instinctive reaction to fend off the attacker… even though that attacker was her own child.  She slapped her child without even thinking about it. [Read more…]

Angry Parents Filing Suit

This morning, a friend of mine posted a link on Facebook about some angry parents who are suing the Chicago Board of Education.  When I read about why they were such angry parents who were driven to litigation, I couldn’t help but be angry on their behalf.  There’s no one size fits all approach when it comes to how to discipline a child.  Just when you think you’ve figured out how to discipline a child based on your own, that’s when you come across a child who absolutely does not respond to the methods you’ve used for your own (or first).  But still, there are some methods of discipline that I’m pretty sure we can almost universally agree are not appropriate for use on children. [Read more…]