Mommy Guilt, Infant Crying, and Toddler Tantrums

I suspect that mommy guilt is a universal phenomenon.  If you work, there’s some mommy guilt because you’re not home with your child 24/7.  If you stay at home, there’s that mommy guilt because you wonder what kind of example you’re providing for your child.  How can you tell your kids that they can be anything they want, and that school is valuable and important if you’re “just a stay at home mom”?

Lately, I’ve been dealing with a different kind of mommy guilt.  You see, frequently when I’m taking care of Eudora, Norton will scream for something.  He needs more milk.  He wants down from his chair at the table.  He can’t find Pillow.  It could be anything, but it feels like having to wait more than thirty seconds will kick off a toddler tantrum of epic proportions.  And when Norton starts having a tantrum, Eudora freaks out and explodes into an inconsolable ball of infant crying.  That leads to Mommy wanting to freak out and have her own screaming/crying fit.

But of course, I can’t do that.  I have to try to make sure that none of the explosions happen and everyone feels happy.

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Why This Happy Mom Skipped Strong Start

Maybe I’m more of a rebellious mom than a happy mom.  Or maybe I’m a happy mom because I got smart.  Either way you slice it, I skipped out on doing something that I should do.

I might not be setting a great example in doing this.  Maybe it means that I’m really a lazy mom.

You know what?  I don’t care what it means.  All that I know is that I’m glad I did it.  No mommy guilt whatsoever. [Read more…]