A Smart Toddler Uses Problem Solving Skills

One of the fun things about being a mom to a smart toddler is watching his mind at work.  It’s like all the effort that Norton wasn’t willing to put into talking, he put into being a little engineer.  Yesterday my little engineer demonstrated some pretty smart toddler reasoning skills.  Had it not been for him using those reasoning skills to get into things, it would have been pretty impressive.

Norton was playing with some crackers and making quite a mess.  (Not to mention teasing the dogs.)  The husband lost patience with it, took the crackers, and put them on top of the kitchen counter.  The crackers were just out of Norton’s reach.

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Mommy Guilt, Infant Crying, and Toddler Tantrums

I suspect that mommy guilt is a universal phenomenon.  If you work, there’s some mommy guilt because you’re not home with your child 24/7.  If you stay at home, there’s that mommy guilt because you wonder what kind of example you’re providing for your child.  How can you tell your kids that they can be anything they want, and that school is valuable and important if you’re “just a stay at home mom”?

Lately, I’ve been dealing with a different kind of mommy guilt.  You see, frequently when I’m taking care of Eudora, Norton will scream for something.  He needs more milk.  He wants down from his chair at the table.  He can’t find Pillow.  It could be anything, but it feels like having to wait more than thirty seconds will kick off a toddler tantrum of epic proportions.  And when Norton starts having a tantrum, Eudora freaks out and explodes into an inconsolable ball of infant crying.  That leads to Mommy wanting to freak out and have her own screaming/crying fit.

But of course, I can’t do that.  I have to try to make sure that none of the explosions happen and everyone feels happy.

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A Defiant Toddler Hurts

Norton is really a fairly typical two year old. He can be happy, sweet, and loving. He can also be a wickedly defiant toddler who rages at perceived injustices…. Those injustices, of course, primarily revolve around things like Mommy not allowing cookies for breakfast or in forcing a diaper change.

On Monday, a diaper change brought out my defiant toddler. He ran around the house, pranced around, played cute, and did everything he could think of to distract me from the diaper change. When that failed, my defiant toddler went from passive resistance to active resistance. And it was ugly.

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Toddler Milestone – Norton’s First Dental Visit

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For a while now, I’d been trying to get this toddler milestone done.  The Northern Health Authority had said that the first dental visit should happen around one year.  The American Academy of Pediatrics had said two years.  My own dentist had said three years.  Ugh.  After some talking and doing, Norton had his first toddler dental visit today.

I’d had visions in my head of how this particular toddler milestone would work out.  Norton would be his sweetest and most charming self.  He’d sit in my lap in the chair while the husband surreptitiously snapped shots on my iPhone.  He’d smile and be fascinated when R, our hygienist, showed him the instruments.  Everything would be blissful, and we’d follow it up with a fun visit to the park.

Then there was how it really went.

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